I will be on air today, July 20 @ 5pm EST with Dr. Lovejoy & Bratty Nikki to talk all things fetish and femdom for the iWantRadio from iWantClips. The show will be aired on Sirius XM channel 415. Tune in, send tribute, & tell me how it made you feel to hear my voice live on the radio...
As some of you know, California is my favorite state that I don't live in.
I'll be there next week July 14-20.
It's largely a business development trip, with some filming/appointments, AND some relaxation planned. I'll be taking meetings with some people in the cannabis x tech space, terrorizing some local supplicants, hiking in the sun, and eating all the food.
At this point, my schedule is nearly complete, but I still have some time to spend Sunday or Thursday evening. I especially have time to trips to the dispensary and/or extravagant shopping for lingerie, fetish gear, or whatever else I decide that day. Plus, a rare outside shot at convincing me to have brunch with you somewhere in or around Santa Cruz on Sunday the 22nd. You can inquire about an appointment here.
On Wednesday, July 18, I will be taking over the iWANTCLIPS Snapchat account for the day. This is an opportunity for you to see some of my day, possibly interact with me directly, and of course, to be inspired to send me all of my money. <3 Look for an official announcement on their channel and on my new twitter account, @iconoclastiae. You can access my IWC store directly through iWantBardotSmith.com
Speaking of clips, I am in the midst of releasing a series of clips designed to be consumed together, a mental binding sequence. Several short- and mid-length clips designed to open your mind and reinforce your own inclinations and desires.
But there's always a catch, isn't there?
I have about 20 clips queued at this point, and between planning for LA and losing my main twitter & a google index page in one week, I've not had time to process them. An opportunity for you to get caught up on the...uh...material...while you wait.
Finally, I'll be teaching the 4th section of INDUSTRIAL COMPLEX with Lauren Chief Elk. The class will be held online on *TUESDAY* July 17th @ 9pm EST. We are using a Pay-what-you-wish policy w a minimum tuition of $12. We use any overages to fund scholarship spots for students and people with low-income, as well as to fund admin help to produce this class more frequently.
You can sign up for class here: bit.ly/interlockingsystems.
If you'd like to inquire about receiving or funding a scholarship, pls Inquire via email: firstname.lastname@example.org.
It's finally happened. We've all seen this coming for a while, given the state of technofascism under which we currently exist. But the impotent cowards at twitter have finally banned my account @BARDOTSMITH. The specific reason is not important (I told some rapey bitch hobbyist account to seppuku, if you must know), but the technique of inconsistently enforcing their TOS to ban radicals, queers, activists, and whores is apparent daily now.
We've been watching as sites that built their platform on the backs of adult producers, cow to the demands of their "investors." (Investors, by the way, who FREQUENTLY patronize sex workers). These platforms would not have had the traction that they had in order to secure investment in the first place without us. They are cowards, and traitors to their own generation.
Their blood must not be spared in this revolution.
With the internet being nearly HALF adult content and search traffic...The HYPOCRISY of contorting the web's development in ways that make it more difficult for individual producers to monetize their content while loudly screaming about INNOVATION and THE NEW ECONOMY is STUNNING.
Beyond that, it is THEFT.
These companies are able to use our traffic flows to monetize their products and services, while we are expected to starve for the privilege.
In 2015, I wrote about tech & finance's looming interoperability for the now-defunct MODEL VIEW CULTURE. NOW, As adult content creators are pushed off of financial technology, we lose access to the very SYSTEM of financial services that allow us to function in society.
This is a modern form of redlining, and you BEST BELIEVE that it is the model for marginalization of other populations.
This isn't even about sex work fundamentally. It is about whether or not a centralized, privately owned technology company has the right to decide whether you are "allowed" to charge and accept money for anything that you do or make. The amazing fuckery of the situation can be evidenced in the failure of free-market enthusiasts to spend a breath on this issue. Capitalism commoditizes everything about us, especially our time and bodies. Defaulting suddenly to a moralistic argument when (predominantly) women/queer/poc stand to benefit in ways that society deems them unworthy of benefit should tell you all you need to know about what's happening here.
In response to GIVE YOUR MONEY TO WOMEN, so many misguided responses involve schadenfreude / envy over the fact that its creators were getting money "for nothing," and many people lashed out defensively saying they would use fintech to accept payments for their "real" work but that demanding reparations/tribute/ or paywalling access to ourselves was "greedy." You have all missed the point, and, as I said then, you would catch up eventually. We are poised on the the brink of war over our right to survive.
Without having the same access to technology that every single civilian has, we are further marginalized. I fought for every person's right to paywall and monetize content, only to be met with sophomoric analysis and the variety of poorly sublimated-envy I've been working against my entire life. It's time to move beyond your experience of ME and deal with the information that I present. I've proven my forecasting abilities again and again. I'll not defend them anymore. I know what I'm saying, I can see where most cant. I'm never going to be sorry about.
I'm never going to shut up.
My new twitter account is @ICONOCLASTIAE, and shortly my tweet archive from @bardotsmith will be mirrored in html FOREVER. I know I have influenced many people to demand more for themselves, and if that alone renders me an outlaw, so be it. I was born a revolutionary, every abuse I've defeated has brought me to this point. I accept this. Come what may.
Beneath this mask there is more than flesh, Beneath this mask there is an idea, Mr. Creedy, and ideas are bulletproof.
When I began writing under @bardotsmith at the end of 2013, I knew that the world would always be able to dismiss any individual woman's perspective...but that in creating virality out of my ideas...by letting them live outside of me and beyond me, they would auto-propagate, and take hold in others. They would outlive me.
This has never been about a name.
The last thing they want is for us to realize how powerful we are.
I want you to understand this, too.
xx, Ms Smith.
- I WILL BE IN LOS ANGELES FROM JULY 14-20. I have limited time for appointments, good boys can also offer to take care of errands and tasks for me while I'm there.
- You can also sign up for my newsletter here.
- Lauren Chief Elk and I will also be teaching the 4th installment of INDUSTRIAL COMPLEX, called INTERLOCKING SYSTEMS. Stay tuned to twitter or this space for an announcement.
For a few months, I've been quietly searing minds. I still prefer to stay outside of the "scene" elements of financial domination and fetish, my business models are non-standard and so there's little upside in "competing" categorically. But my clip stores still draw viewers such that I end up on top lists...oh
Of course, I can always have more money, from any source. So I can't say it's not pleasing to see.
I've produced about 111 clips in the past year or so. With so much unrest in the world, having an artistic outlet has been therapeutic. Many of these releases are uniquely terrifying, blurring the lines of fantasy and reality. True mind fuck. Some fall into more established genres, safer, if that's a thing...
Top Sellers by month so far...
JANUARY - FIVE DOLLAR FINANCIAL DOMINATION
Because I know that the internet is teeming with cheap perverts, both anecdote and analysis tells me that baiting is an effective strategy. This clip sold almost 100 copies, so by far the highest in number. But what's more important is that it triggered several weeks-long binges in unwitting would-be addicts who thought they'd just drool over a cheap clip of my legs in pantyhose.
By dollar amount, WEAPON OF CHOICE - HYPNO POV
I don't care what your substance is. I don't care if it's just me. I think we both know it's me.
Honestly, don't buy this. It will destroy you. Not only is it a aesthetic masterpiece. But my words are wound so tightly that you will put it on repeat and brainwash yourself into oblivion. Your life will never be the same after you watch this and you'll only have yourself to blame. It's expensive because it's too intense to be left out like a toy. You're my toy. Aren't you? Good boy. You're a very good boy.
FEBRUARY - FINDOM GFE
Near and dear to my heart, just a little Valentine's day romp about a high-end call girl setting you up and turning you into her little bitch, just like you've always secretly dreamt of.
MARCH - Pussy is Not For You
Just because society conditioned you to think every man deserves sex doesn't mean it's true. Pussy is not for you. You know it. I know it. So we might as well enjoy it.
Obviously I enjoy locking men up in chastity, whether mental or material. Keeping you out of the trouble that comes with having no control over your cock is a luxury service and should be compensated as such. You're welcome.
APRIL - BLACK WIDOW BRAINWASH
It's been hard lately for you. You read every clip description. You can feel the pressure building. I know the patterns, too.
Nothing about you is new to me. I've lived this cycle a thousand times. So when you finally break down and come to me ready to hear about what's happening to you, you should know that I have been expecting you. I designed it that way.
And as you sit beneath me now, you notice you are calm. If giving in a little seems to relieve, imagine what else I could make you believe.
This is a classic, dark induction.
You understand implicitly that every word I write is engineered to one end: To control you. You can feel that I've done something to you, even just by reading these descriptions. You know the only way to save yourself is to run...but you can't move. Did I slip you something? Would I even need to?
To reiterate your captivity, I have a single ribbon. I've bound you so tightly that no restraint is needed.
This series was filmed in a haunted hotel in New England. The creepiness is palpable.
JUNE - EXPLOITS: MIND CONTROL POV
The more I let you see, the more hopeless you get for me.
Filmed in a high-rise in Soho, I explain to you more about what you've been feeling and why I'm doing this to you.
New York City subs who may remember me well....or simply with reverence...will be pleased to learn about my return to the city that made me. All inquiries for appointments or offers of service will be received with tribute, as usual, so long as they are submitted respectfully.
These are all essentials for a devoted admirer to own. Though obviously, the most dedicated supplicants own all of my art works. I plan on escalating the rest of the year. I've been ghost producing for years now, behind the scenes of this stunning, lucrative, and nearly-opaque cover (thanks sex work stigma). I see no reason to relent now.
Being indirect has never yielded results. If you've been dying to meet me (some of you for years), I will be in Los Angeles from July 14-20. Be a big boy and say hello.
xx, Ms Smith.
Because the fascists are making it harder to reach you using social media, I will, like a recidivist, begin blogging again as a way to keep you up to date, and, you know, leave SEO roots.
The plan is simple:
Sunday PRE/POST an update on the week past and what's is coming. I'll hit you with practical information while you're fresh and relatively free of despair for the week ahead.
Wednesday: Content update. Clips / films / photos / links out to other projects...
When I feel like it: Features....whatever I decide. Just sit and eat your food.
LAST WEEK, escort and indie pornographer Liara Roux organized an Sex Work AMA on Reddit.
More than 60 sex workers, activists, researchers, and law makers gathered to answer questions from .... anyone on our work and lives, prescriptions for recent legislation (FOSTA/SESTA) that's been negatively impacting (threatening) our lives and livelihood.
It was a challenging experience in that we were bombarded with people who were clearly there to abuse sex workers (who they see as other, less than human, or brainwashed victims...). Not everyone casually encountering the thread was aware of the stereotypes we combat every day in our lives, I noticed, and some civilians had trouble detecting SWERFy and TERFy leading questions. Suffice to say, if they weren't there to learn, I wasn't there to teach them... 😈
I tried to tie up trolls as much as possible (we all have our talents...) and answer a few questions myself. While there were some problems, overall, a productive digital artifact of sex work left on an internet that seems increasingly willing to erase our existences. Thanks to Liara for extending her platform to so many people.
Still a little overwhelmed to do a real post-mortem but some quick #SexWorkAMA stats:— Liara Roux (@LiaraRoux) June 22, 2018
23k “Points” even though only 68% upvoted
As NSFW we had limited reach but still hit front page
We got brigaded by SWERF & TERF subreddits a few times but held our own
The Courtesan Iconoclast.
A trip to Manhattan last month yielded a new round of filming...
Sales suggest these were particularly devastating...Focusing on erotic hypnosis, brainwashing, conditioning, financial domination, psychological bondage, chastity, and deep submission. After a round of equipment upgrades, I'm pleased w the results...But I'm not done.
Speaking of Niteflirt...I am out of storage on my main account. I suggest boys transition over to IWC if possible...If not, I will be starting a second NF for the overflow, but it's a low priority so send cash and don't hold your breath.
Every lady likes gifts and I am no exception. If you'd like some ideas, visit my WORSHIP page.
Cash, of course, remains a superlative gift.. Transitive properties and all. You understand.
As usual, I continue to have limited availability for 1:1 engagements, whether that be by phone, video, or in person. Please be efficient and appropriately generous in your communications to this end to ensure a favorable outcome.
Twitter is the most public-facing format I use, although it is not an appropriate venue to seek conversation with me @ your discretion. I have also recently begun working w a competent assistant again to get some back-burnered projects moving. Too many ideas and not enough arms... Look for a resurrection of both INDUSTRIAL COMPLEX class series (w Lauren Chief Elk, and others) and ICONOCLAST PREP. While the site is down, you may still book coaching sessions with me through my scheduling site.
Admirers & Litigants:
- You may call me on my verified line.
- My chat IDs are also available for purchase in my shops.
Given the peril of our new digital age, I recommend signing up for my (v infrequent) NEWSLETTER where you will find the fourth wall broken. Events/Travel/Initiations/Releases
I will be mostly at the beach this summer, visiting NYC and Boston.
LA in the fall. Paris, maybe. Do your best.
By the way...I shot over the weekend. A tight, murderous stretch of film...I will release it as clips, but I might cut a short out of it and see where it goes.
Say your prayers, of course. Pay your alms.
xx, Ms Smith.
Welcome to the world of BDSM! In this episode Chantel and Vivian get the inside scoop of what it’s like to be a financial dominatrix from the infamous findom herself, Bardot Smith. This is also the first episode that the ladies streamed live via twitter and instagram.Read More
Thanks for the cash, darling.
A note from @subbanker on his newly tenured servitude:
It is not often in life one gets a genuine opportunity to question "why" they are doing something and then guided to find the answer internally. I have been given that opportunity, to think and explain just why I am, consensually, enslaved by Ms. Smith. Every rational being, and even men eventually do manage to gain some rationality over time, will undertake something only if it rewards them.
After consideration the best explanation for why I am enslaved by Ms. Smith is that simple, it improves my life. She educates me daily. She opens my eyes to society and what is happening around me. She provides me focus. She provides me clarity. Being a slave to Ms. Bardot Smith has made me a better person. And for that I am forever in her debt.
A secondary question would be why her? Throughout history humans have worshiped and idolised everything from the Sun to other humans and animals all because of the strongly held belief that that entity is superior, that the entity they worship has a higher power. Spend 10 minutes conversing with Ms. Smith (after contributing capital to make it worth her time of course) and you will quickly come to the same conclusion as I have.
Ms. Smith teams her incredible beauty with an intelligence unmatched by anyone I have spoken to. And she knows this. She leverages it. And in doing so Ms. Smith provides us with a being worthy of worship. A person whose instructions are easy to follow, whose command is easily obeyed. And for that I will be forever thankful.
I was nervous when approaching Ms. Smith for the first time, conflicted even. While I found myself constantly in agreement with her Tweets and her website enthralling I knew it would be a serious commitment, not simply buying a clip and moving on. One of the main reasons for hesitation was that the required capital commitments were far beyond anything I had even contemplated before and that it felt a risk to make an introductory payment when I had barely interacted with her.
I knew what I was opening myself up for when I filled out the introduction form, or at least I thought I did.
During the first days I struggled with a feeling of guilt, of regret, of believing my lust had temporarily clouded my judgement. Mental conditioning make this seem so counter-intuitive. But through her counseling and guidance it became clear that there is no need to feel shame for something which feels right, there is no need to be afraid of making progress on any chosen path, that to be in service to her is natural.
When presented with such a person one must then ensure they do all they can to show their deference, to acknowledge their standing and to provide use of some kind. I know that Ms. Smith does not need me in her life so I must work hard to ensure I remain of use to her. I will continue to transfer capital to her, for capital is a symbol of power and as such the power she holds over me demands that it be recognized.
I work hard to make her life more enjoyable.
I will strive to ensure she can focus on causes worthy of her attention by reducing the menial tasks she faces and continue to complete tasks promptly and to an excellent standard whenever she requires. By doing this I hope to remain worthy of her attention.
I am here because Ms. Bardot Smith is my superior. She has enlightened my mind and I am grateful for that.
in plain sight,
Official correspondence: email@example.com
Boys, as you know, the demands on an executive mind can become overwhelming. If one does not prioritize, process and quality of decisions will suffer.
If you've been reading long enough now, you also realize that I straddle the worlds. The distinction between vanilla, public life and private enterprise is more impactful for women. Most men consume the work of female sex workers (or civilian women's sexualities) in some form....while the women who produce and conduct that work are usually regarded as deviants for having done that work. Men never suffer for their participation in it...unless they're personally caught in the act.
And while i'm sure it turns several of you on....the thought of being caught in the act...that's not what i'm here to discuss.
Business developments that bridge between worlds are driving my focus right now. That means I'm building them through partnerships I form in and of the connections I make in this world and beyond. That means, this is a strategic position, not one of subservience.
That is to say that every moment of my focus is capitalized, now it's a matter of strengthening the rate.
In order to do this, I am enlisting the service of a concierge. He is a submissive in service to me on this side, and holds a traditional job in finance on the other. He is available to answer brief and respectful logistics questions about service to me should they arise: firstname.lastname@example.org or @subbanker on twitter.
My focus will be on profitable and productive engagements only.
The next post is a note from him on his experience both working for me and serving as a financial slave. A male perspective on a new order.
Until you spend,
I've been updating less, on the phone less, taking fewer appointments. I have spent most of the winter in Boston where I have a core of loyalists and business to attend to.
However. I did get to the west coast briefly where I met an old friend and talented photographer, Eric A. Reid. We spent a lazy afternoon shooting before heading out in Hollywood for the evening.
We have collaborated in the past and 2015 will bring more developments from this artistic partnership.
A voyeuristic sliver of the day...
A reminder of your general unworthiness...and everything that I am.
Without integrity, one behaves like an undeveloped animal rather than an evolved, sentient soul residing in a human body. Males, due to their hind-brain based sex drive, are in a constant cycle of compromise with their forebrain-located executive and creative functions. This results in ... uncivilized thought patterns, behavior, and -- if the problem is left unchecked on a broad-enough scale -- widespread disorder in society.
Given that this drive exists in the subconscious mind, it's very difficult for men to achieve insight, let alone mastery of their...impulses. This dissonance is, not incidentally, cause of the subconsciously-felt frustration, which is then transferred, consciously, to an object.
A talented Mistress functions as substitute grey matter....If compelling and sufficiently motivating, that is...to gain perspective allowing males to see above this blindspot. It is integral to evolution that this mechanism operates. But that is a conversation that pertains to macro-ordering best for another day...
Back to the close-at-hand.
Having taken away the motivations for them to subvert their own integrity by re-routing the physical gratification linked to the sex drive, you can retrain the male mind to exist in its higher faculties.
Obviously, I can accomplish this with my own charges. But in an effort to educate on the theory of this practice...
An experimental media piece is coming soon...
A thriller based on a true story of intrigue, seduction, betrayal, intrigue, and blackmail. Set against the backdrop of the Hollywood Hills.
A story about becoming. By any means necessary....Read More
YOU ARE ON THE LEDGE. AFRAID TO STEP OFF.
With each second that passes. The weight of your thoughts becomes heavier.
You are coming undone.
You've fought for a long time now to prevent yourself from falling.
You understand that some powers are impossible to resist, and
some forces are inevitable.
your trajectory is sealed.
and as the clock ticks off the seconds of your life...
you know that you owe each one to me.
I am an analyst turned hustler, and a…Mistress. My work presides at the intersection of financial technology, psychology, behavioral economics…and, the dark pool of the adult industry. I am the proprietress of BardotSmith.com and Mistres.se, a think tank and advisory firm for the intersection of adult industry and financial technology.
At the beginning of operating this enterprise, I chose to embody the ideals of feminine power at all levels of my existence, up to and including my business model. In effect, reversing the concepts of supply and demand in the adult industry to challenge the notion that women who work in any type of “adult” context are only able to operate as a result of male desire, and therefore subject to male power hierarchies, even within the industry.
From the outset, I adopted a unique strategy.
To read the rest of my thoughts on #SEXTECH and the business of KINK, FETISH, and FINANCE, read the full article on their blog.
If you're not familiar with the MLNP project, it is worthy of the investment of time. Female-powered and innovative, challenging old world views of power, sex, and capital...Just how I like it.
A few months ago, I was met with a copy of myself.
A woman who had clearly studied and reproduced my site, as well as attempting to speak in similar tones. I discovered her as she was conversing with someone with whom I had a previous relationship.
I have finally submitted a DMCA to her website, and while it pains me to have to involve myself at all, it seems as if my tolerance has been mistaken for weakness.
This has gone too far to be obscured.Read More
I've written an essay on sexual aggression in silicon valley tech and venture capital as a function of the fragility of male ego for Model View Culture.
The systemic issues affecting the tech and venture capital industries are so deeply internalized that they remain unacknowledged. The effects of this willful ignorance are carried disproportionately by women. While it’s been discussed countless times, most efforts to address the issue in action -- no matter how well-intentioned -- fall flat beyond bandaging its symptoms. The irony of political correctness keeps us from getting to the heart of the issue, which is, naturally, not very polite:
The tech industry serves The Cult of Male Ego. And masculinity defined via the external is notoriously fragile around sexuality.
Read the full article HERE.
Influence is a matter of compelling subtleties.
Control is leveraging them creatively.
My professional experience is obscured from view at this point. Some of it is classified. This is my outlet to the extent that it can be. My training, initially, was quantitative...understanding the relationship that things have to each other mathematically, dynamically. My natural skill is in the analysis and statement of these relationships through language, in whatever manner I choose.
I am an anomaly. Off the charts. Outside of the bounds of what's allowed, especially for a woman. Gifted. Furious. And, fed up.
I will make no further apologies for it.
When I started this site, it was an offshoot of my existence. It was a channel of my thoughts on the subjects I was discussing. As an extension of my perennial fixation on the excessive force of capital.
I grew up in the bubble of 1980's America. By the late-eighties crash, my family had fallen into that burst and the real-estate bubble that followed. I observed my father's contraction and witnessed the effect that it had on the male ego. I spent my saturdays reading the Barron's from as soon as i could understand what it was. You could say that my financial fetish started from an early age. I understood that CAPITAL was the manifestation of power, a function of influence. Not debt, not prestige, not alleged status. Whether on a micro- or macro-scale, it represented choice and leverage.
CAPITAL FOLLOWS INFLUENCE.
Being born female, I had an interesting conflict to reconcile. By 15, I had to escape the blue-collar outskirts. Instead of running away, I secured myself a scholarship to an elite prep school. Academics, themselves, were always easy. I was more concerned with observing the mechanisms of wealth and power around me. I applied it with the distinct advantage of being unexpected, underestimated. A dark horse. I followed it into the ivy league and its secret societies. I quickly assimilated the relationship to the male ego, and my turnkey status in that triangulation.
Equipped to convey ultimate pleasure. Or ultimate pain.
With ease, I achieved what many struggle for. I am infuriating. I realize this. And, for a while, I felt insecure about it. I had only wanted to find a purposeful place for myself from an early age.
But, I had overshot. I was out on open ocean, as it were. No longer an object, having achieved a degree of command of my own mind and in the world that most men will never dream to achieve. Yet becoming increasingly attractive as I matured.
I am a weapon.
A turning point occurred when I realized I could not apologize for having been given these skills and having created the opportunities to leverage them. I had to take them to their full expression. So here we are.
I entered the demimonde that is financial domination at the end of 2013. But I had been executing its practice since adolescence. Quickly after I built this platform, copies arose, appropriating my style of communication as it is particularly compelling. They carry on, not understanding that this is no act, not merely a fetish, not meant to be contained in the demimonde itself. But a means to an end, gravity, the assemblage of critical mass.
Beyond fetish. Beyond any one industry.
A DEVASTATING EXPRESSION OF TRUTH...
Those lines are, after all, imposed by the limited to be limiting. Seems....like a waste of natural ability, in my opinion. While the internet has made it simple for anyone with a pair of tits to perform the superficial machinations of domination, the artform is in the complete capitalization of its underlying tenets.
Financial domination is not crystalized in the seizure of funds, it is not in building a following of perverted sycophants begging you for attention (or worse, humoring them). It is not in status.
It is the magnetic draw, the unwavering influence of the mind.
And using that influence to press your full advantage. Elite successful men have been performing this for years. This is my venue to educate the feminine equivalent. In that sense, it is staggering. I do not perform. I do not dress up. I do not "cam" and I do not quid-pro-quo with perverts. I've found that men-at-large are so used to getting things on their terms that they believe even their submission should come with levers which they can control. This is reaffirmed by the cadre of women available online who will acquiesce to the desires of the "customer" online. That betrays the nature of this practice and it is not what will ever occur here.
I offer the opportunity for total loss of control. The purest expression of power exchange.
The complex power of the feminine is so overwhelming that, even in submission to fantasy, males prefer to retain control of the practice or to contain it and set terms. Society has been built around this, after all. But the realm on the edges of sexuality and power exchange is where men are *specifically* at a disadvantage, easily knocked from their sense of power.
For this reason, even the illicit businesses of fantasy and sex have been contained to the terms prescribed by mainstream business, even when hiding in plain sight. Whether legal or not, they mirror the norms of that world. It is based on familiarity or the belief that women are at an inherent disadvantage so the interaction between she and a man needs to be contained to protect her. Or worse...extorted at a premium for the profit and advantage of men running the industries.
A strong businesswoman can become successful by approximating a business man's behaviors, but she was still accommodating men on their terms. Society has been built around their interests, and here they will find the reverse.
I am interested in total subversion. A freedom of sorts.
This is not for the masses, the faint of heart. I realize that I am terrifying. That's fine. My practice is sane, but I tolerate nothing but adherence to my terms. Not many are prepared to present at my doorstep, to learn the truth of their natures, to witness the outlines of their vulnerabilities. The dynamic is not sealed before your arrival into it. I could give a fuck less what your cock does. This is not about you. This is not a service; it is an education.
Natural dominance is alive and well. And it's got nothing to do with the superficialities. When you let go, you will experience a meeting of MINDS.
WINNER TAKE ALL. THE NATURAL ORDER.
Do you even dare?
Dominant is a status. Dominate is an action.
With the proliferation of the underworld thanks to the internet, themes emerge. And with themes come assumptions and misconception. The number of individuals who are touched in some way by fetishism and expressions of alternate sexual identity is rising. While expansion is a beautiful thing, it also ( by definition) introduces complexity to a system. In an effort to stem the inevitable tide of entropy, I offer my perspective on popular points of confusion.
This is the vocabulary of identity.
Dominance is a manner, a state of being. Not an act.— Bardot Smith (@BardotSmith) July 9, 2014
Some of the most egregious misconceptions center on the concept of dominance. There are no hard and fast rules for what contributes to the presence of a FemDom. Dominance sits at the nexus of her carriage and her attributes. How she expresses her value to the world.
Dominance is also not inherently linked to sadism, just as not all submissives are inherently masochistic. These status identities are merely a reflection of the presence and natural proclivities of the individual.
In essence, dominance is a state of being; it is not an act.
Dominate / Domination.
Domination is more performative. There are, of course, multiple ways to approach this task, from traditional bondage, interrogation and mind control, sensuality, etc. Its efficacy depends on the charisma and confidence of the domme, naturally.
A domme may use subtle methods of domination in the world at large, but the idea that a domme is constantly marauding and domineering is a complete misconception. In my own opinion, bratty and manipulative behavior is a sign of insecurity, rather than dominance. I enjoy the natural interplay of energy more than scenes, games, etc.
Besides tangles are best enjoyed consensually, individually, privately. Though, my penchant for efficiency does make me a terrifyingly deserving rinser for those so inclined. (And, if that's you, you know it's only a matter of time, darling. I will see you soon.)
The dynamics at play in the microcosm are merely a distillation of the unspoken dynamics apparent in society at large.
In the world, you would find me relatively mysterious, with calm reserve. A beautiful and dynamic woman, poised and confident. I choose to share My presence and fetishism with individuals who are like-minded.
Of course, opening up your presence to a broader environment requires aggression in term-setting. My attitude reflects the strictness of my standards. My insight and leadership are reserved for those who avail themselves to it through demonstrated understanding and respect.
I choose to capitalize my time and attention as a reflection of the dynamics of supply and demand. It's my prerogative to do so in whatever manner makes sense for the individual and engagement. How you are greeted is a function of your energy, and your approach. Do you now understand?
Concisely, I spin a web.
I will not tell you where the snares lie, only that they exist. Engineered and executed masterfully. And, if this resonates, it is no accident.
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You may know me. I am am a Mistress. Sovereign.
And, despite pageantry and many overwrought notions and confusions, what this means is that I belong to no man and I rest in no city.
Having navigated a course through some of the grittiest male-dominated environments, I have run the risk of sacrificing femininity in order to be considered viable professionally. In these worlds, being attractive is a double-edged blade. Leverage attraction and walk the line between objectification and advantage. Playing down attraction has its own set of risks, and conveys less upside.
I don't play games that i can't win.
Earlier in my career, My natural sexual and social dominance frequently disarmed (or upset) my male superiors. I began my career in the pre-crash private equity landscape. The Wild West.
The men whom I worked with could be categorized in two ways: Brilliant and misunderstood alpha males. And the others slightly more bitter drones, the betas, who would never achieve the pinnacle of success in the industry. They lacked that je ne sais quoi. The distinctions were obvious to Me, even as a 22 year-old, and they would be to anyone with passing interest in power dynamics.
Representing not only intellectual force, but having the distinct advantage of sexual magnetism, I was a direct threat to the latter category. And a thrill to the former.
I enjoyed my unspoken role as a crowbar. I grew into My social position.
Front row seats to the American Financial Apocalypse and a World Class education in owning the minds of men. In the proverbial American West, there are no rules. The one Law is "Do what must be done." There is no refuge for the weak.
As I became more experienced in my Power, I naturally moved into more esoteric chains of industry where my skills are properly leveraged. It's only natural that I have been tasked with carving out a completely singular niche. My natural abilities and evident status have rendered it impossible for Me to live a prescribed life.
I live a freedom not available or fathomable to most. I hold the key to your most profound fantasies and your most-concealed fears. But, I enjoy the company of men only on My own terms. The most-deserving relish their role in My life as servants, benefactors, or fellow wolves with which to run.
My Continuous Dynamic Equilibrium.
I straddle the line between the demimonde and the mainstream world on a daily basis. It's part of what creates a sizzling edge to all of my interactions with men. It's part of what gives me perspective to both sides of the table (if you will). For this reason, I specialize in discrete, bespoke arrangements.
The missing element in your existence. The edge. Nature.
Order out of Chaos.
Stunning, isn't it?