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BIG ASS UPDATE PRE/POST JUNE 25, 2018 by OSD.


Because the fascists are making it harder to reach you using social media, I will, like a recidivist, begin blogging again as a way to keep you up to date, and, you know, leave SEO roots. 

Moving on.

The plan is simple: 

Sunday PRE/POST an update on the week past and what's is coming. I'll hit you with practical information while you're fresh and relatively free of despair for the week ahead. 

Wednesday: Content update. Clips / films / photos / links out to other projects...

When I feel like it: Features....whatever I decide. Just sit and eat your food. 
 


LAST WEEK, escort and indie pornographer Liara Roux organized an Sex Work AMA on Reddit


More than 60 sex workers, activists, researchers, and law makers gathered to answer questions from .... anyone on our work and lives, prescriptions for recent legislation (FOSTA/SESTA) that's been negatively impacting (threatening) our lives and livelihood. 

It was a challenging experience in that we were bombarded with people who were clearly there to abuse sex workers (who they see as other, less than human, or brainwashed victims...). Not everyone casually encountering the thread was aware of the stereotypes we combat every day in our lives, I noticed, and some civilians had trouble detecting SWERFy and TERFy leading questions. Suffice to say, if they weren't there to learn, I wasn't there to teach them...  😈

I tried to tie up trolls as much as possible (we all have our talents...) and answer a few questions myself. While there were some problems, overall, a productive digital artifact of sex work left on an internet that seems increasingly willing to erase our existences. Thanks to Liara for extending her platform to so many people.


The Courtesan Iconoclast.

A trip to Manhattan last month yielded a new round of filming...

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Sales suggest these were particularly devastating...Focusing on erotic hypnosis, brainwashing, conditioning, financial domination, psychological bondage, chastity, and deep submission. After a round of equipment upgrades, I'm pleased w the results...But I'm not done. 

Exclusives available through IWantClips.
(Plus, the best payout amongst the adult processors: So...SENDMY.CASH)

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Speaking of Niteflirt...I am out of storage on my main account. I suggest boys transition over to IWC if possible...If not, I will be starting a second NF for the overflow, but it's a low priority so send cash and don't hold your breath. 

Wishlists: 

Every lady likes gifts and I am no exception. If you'd like some ideas, visit my WORSHIP page.

For practical gifts: Amazon
Digital/Hardware: Apple
Sartorial: Net-a-Porter
MISC / $$ processor: DeliveryCode

Cash, of course, remains a superlative gift.. Transitive properties and all. You understand. 



Summer Plans:
 

As usual, I continue to have limited availability for 1:1 engagements, whether that be by phone, video, or in person. Please be efficient and appropriately generous in your communications to this end to ensure a favorable outcome. 

Twitter is the most public-facing format I use, although it is not an appropriate venue to seek conversation with me @ your discretion. I have also recently begun working w a competent assistant again to get some back-burnered projects moving. Too many ideas and not enough arms... Look for a resurrection of both INDUSTRIAL COMPLEX class series (w Lauren Chief Elk, and others) and ICONOCLAST PREP. While the site is down, you may still book coaching sessions with me through my scheduling site. 


Admirers & Litigants:

  • You may call me on my verified line.
  • My chat IDs are also available for purchase in my shops. 

Given the peril of our new digital age, I recommend signing up for my (v infrequent) NEWSLETTER where you will find the fourth wall broken. Events/Travel/Initiations/Releases

I will be mostly at the beach this summer, visiting NYC and Boston.
LA in the fall. Paris, maybe. Do your best. 

By the way...I shot over the  weekend. A tight, murderous stretch of film...I will release it as clips, but I might cut a short out of it and see where it goes. 

Say your prayers, of course. Pay your alms. 

xx, Ms Smith.




 

 

Concierge by OSD.

Boys, as you know, the demands on an executive mind can become overwhelming. If one does not prioritize, process and quality of decisions will suffer. 

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If you've been reading long enough now, you also realize that I straddle the worlds. The distinction between vanilla, public life and private enterprise is more impactful for women. Most men consume the work of female sex workers (or civilian women's sexualities) in some form....while the women who produce and conduct that work are usually regarded as deviants for having done that work. Men never suffer for their participation in it...unless they're personally caught in the act. 

And while i'm sure it turns several of you on....the thought of being caught in the act...that's not what i'm here to discuss. 

Business developments that bridge between worlds are driving my focus right now. That means I'm building them through partnerships I form in and of the connections I make in this world and beyond. That means, this is a strategic position, not one of subservience.

That is to say that every moment of my focus is capitalized, now it's a matter of strengthening the rate. 

In order to do this, I am enlisting the service of a concierge. He is a submissive in service to me on this side, and holds a traditional job in finance on the other. He is available to answer brief and respectful logistics questions about service to me should they arise: concierge@smithnoir.com or @subbanker on twitter. 

My focus will be on profitable and productive engagements only. 

The next post is a note from him on his experience both working for me and serving as a financial slave. A male perspective on a new order. 

Until you spend,

Ms Smith

The Story of Your Enslavement. by OSD.

Men in chastity have more integrity. 

Without integrity, one behaves like an undeveloped animal rather than an evolved, sentient soul residing in a human body. Males, due to their hind-brain based sex drive, are in a constant cycle of compromise with their forebrain-located executive and creative functions. This results in ... uncivilized thought patterns, behavior, and -- if the problem is left unchecked on a broad-enough scale -- widespread disorder in society.

Given that this drive exists in the subconscious mind, it's very difficult for men to achieve insight, let alone mastery of their...impulses. This dissonance is, not incidentally, cause of the subconsciously-felt frustration, which is then transferred, consciously, to an object.  

A talented Mistress functions as substitute grey matter....If compelling and sufficiently motivating, that is...to gain perspective allowing males to see above this blindspot. It is integral to evolution that this mechanism operates. But that is a conversation that pertains to macro-ordering best for another day...

Back to the close-at-hand.

Having taken away the motivations for them to subvert their own integrity by re-routing the physical gratification linked to the sex drive, you can retrain the male mind to exist in its higher faculties. 

To Evolve. 

Obviously, I can accomplish this with my own charges. But in an effort to educate on the theory of this practice...

LINK: Here is the story of your enslavement: 

Adoration. by OSD.

YOU ARE ON THE LEDGE. AFRAID TO STEP OFF.

With each second that passes. The weight of your thoughts becomes heavier. 

You are coming undone. 

You've fought for a long time now to prevent yourself from falling. 

You understand that some powers are impossible to resist, and

some forces are inevitable. 

your trajectory is sealed. 

and as the clock ticks off the seconds of your life...

you know that you owe each one to me. 

XO, BARDOT. 

p.s. With each item, the story unfolds...

Brave Enough to Change the Worlds of Business & Sex by OSD.

 I was recently A guest poster for MAKE LOVE NOT PORN.

headed by Cindy Gallop and curated by her Madam Curator, Sarah Beall. 

I chose to focus on the business of the sex industry and how my work here intersects with the financial, technological, and social issues at play.  


An excerpt: 

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I am an analyst turned hustler, and a…Mistress. My work presides at the intersection of financial technology, psychology, behavioral economics…and, the dark pool of the adult industry. I am the proprietress of BardotSmith.com and Mistres.se, a think tank and advisory firm for the intersection of adult industry and financial technology.
At the beginning of operating this enterprise, I chose to embody the ideals of feminine power at all levels of my existence, up to and including my business model. In effect, reversing the concepts of supply and demand in the adult industry to challenge the notion that women who work in any type of “adult” context are only able to operate as a result of male desire, and therefore subject to male power hierarchies, even within the industry.
From the outset, I adopted a unique strategy.

To read the rest of my thoughts on #SEXTECH and the business of KINK, FETISH, and FINANCE, read the full article on their blog. 

If you're not familiar with the MLNP project, it is worthy of the investment of time. Female-powered and innovative, challenging old world views of power, sex, and capital...Just how I like it. 

xo, Bardot. 

Plagiarism, Stalking, and Psychotic Obsession. by OSD.

A few months ago, I was met with a copy of myself. 

A woman who had clearly studied and reproduced my site, as well as attempting to speak in similar tones. I discovered her as she was conversing with someone with whom I had a previous relationship. 

I have finally submitted a DMCA to her website, and while it pains me to have to involve myself at all, it seems as if my tolerance has been mistaken for weakness. 

This has gone too far to be obscured.

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Dominant vs. Dominate - The Vocabulary of Identity by OSD.

Dominant is a status. Dominate is an action.

With the proliferation of the underworld thanks to the internet, themes emerge. And with themes come assumptions and misconception. The number of individuals who are touched in some way by fetishism and expressions of alternate sexual identity is rising. While expansion is a beautiful thing, it also ( by definition) introduces complexity to a system. In an effort to stem the inevitable tide of entropy, I offer my perspective on popular points of confusion. 

This is the vocabulary of identity. 


Dominance. 

Some of the most egregious misconceptions center on the concept of dominance. There are no hard and fast rules for what contributes to the presence of a FemDom. Dominance sits at the nexus of her carriage and her attributes. How she expresses her value to the world. 

Dominance is also not inherently linked to sadism, just as not all submissives are inherently masochistic. These status identities are merely a reflection of the presence and natural proclivities of the individual. 

 In essence, dominance is a state of being; it is not an act. 

Dominate / Domination.

Domination is more performative. There are, of course, multiple ways to approach this task, from traditional bondage, interrogation and mind control, sensuality, etc. Its efficacy depends on the charisma and confidence of the domme, naturally. 

A domme may use subtle methods of domination in the world at large, but the idea that a domme is constantly marauding and domineering is a complete misconception. In my own opinion, bratty and manipulative behavior is a sign of insecurity, rather than dominance. I enjoy the natural interplay of energy more than scenes, games, etc.

Besides tangles are best enjoyed consensually, individually, privately. Though, my penchant for efficiency does make me a terrifyingly deserving rinser for those so inclined. (And, if that's you, you know it's only a matter of time, darling. I will see you soon.)

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The dynamics at play in the microcosm are merely a distillation of the unspoken dynamics apparent in society at large. 

In the world, you would find me relatively mysterious, with calm reserve. A beautiful and dynamic woman, poised and confident. I choose to share My presence and fetishism with individuals who are like-minded.  

Of course, opening up your presence to a broader environment requires aggression in term-setting. My attitude reflects the strictness of my standards. My insight and leadership are reserved for those who avail themselves to it through demonstrated understanding and respect.

I choose to capitalize my time and attention as a reflection of the dynamics of supply and demand. It's my prerogative to do so in whatever manner makes sense for the individual and engagement. How you are greeted is a function of your energy, and your approach. Do you now understand?

Concisely, I spin a web. 

I will not tell you where the snares lie, only that they exist. Engineered and executed masterfully. And, if this resonates, it is no accident.  

xo, Bardot. 

PS - For more, follow me on twitter

American Mistress. by OSD.

You may know me. I am am a Mistress. Sovereign.

And, despite pageantry and many overwrought notions and confusions, what this means is that I belong to no man and I rest in no city. 

Having navigated a course through some of the grittiest male-dominated environments, I have run the risk of sacrificing femininity in order to be considered viable professionally. In these worlds, being attractive is a double-edged blade. Leverage attraction and walk the line between objectification and advantage. Playing down attraction has its own set of risks, and conveys less upside.

I don't play games that i can't win. 

Earlier in my career, My natural sexual and social dominance frequently disarmed (or upset) my male superiors. I began my career in the pre-crash private equity landscape. The Wild West.

The men whom I worked with could be categorized in two ways: Brilliant and misunderstood alpha males. And the others slightly more bitter drones, the betas, who would never achieve the pinnacle of success in the industry. They lacked that je ne sais quoi. The distinctions were obvious to Me, even as a 22 year-old, and they would be to anyone with passing interest in power dynamics.  

Representing not only intellectual force, but having the distinct advantage of sexual magnetism, I was a direct threat to the latter category. And a thrill to the former. 

I enjoyed my unspoken role as a crowbar. I grew into My social position.

Front row seats to the American Financial Apocalypse and a World Class education in owning the minds of men. In the proverbial American West, there are no rules. The one Law is "Do what must be done." There is no refuge for the weak. 

As I became more experienced in my Power, I naturally moved into more esoteric chains of industry where my skills are properly leveraged. It's only natural that I have been tasked with carving out a completely singular niche. My natural abilities and evident status have rendered it impossible for Me to live a prescribed life.

I live a freedom not available or fathomable to most. I hold the key to your most profound fantasies and your most-concealed fears. But, I enjoy the company of men only on My own terms. The most-deserving relish their role in My life as servants, benefactors, or fellow wolves with which to run.

My Continuous Dynamic Equilibrium. 

I straddle the line between the demimonde and the mainstream world on a daily basis. It's part of what creates a sizzling edge to all of my interactions with men. It's part of what gives me perspective to both sides of the table (if you will). For this reason, I specialize in discrete, bespoke arrangements. 

The missing element in your existence. The edge. Nature.

Order out of Chaos. 


Stunning, isn't it?
xo, Bardot. 

Your Undoing. by OSD.

You are...shaking. A loop plays over in your mind. Again... again... again...

Nerves? Exhilaration? Or the volatile reaction to my presence searing the edges of your consciousness? You never saw it coming.  

All the minute forces, the sticky glue that previously sustained your world disintegrating into the void. There is nothing to be done.

Your unraveling is inescapable. It's only just begun. The initiation is swift. Your trajectory is inevitable.

When I think of how your mind spins, the corners of my lips turn up. First one. Then the other.

Poor little creature. Welcome to your undoing. 

 

Two can play this game. 
xo, Bardot.