vocabulary

Dominant vs. Dominate - The Vocabulary of Identity /  by sciarra

Dominant is a status. Dominate is an action.

With the proliferation of the underworld thanks to the internet, themes emerge. And with themes come assumptions and misconception. The number of individuals who are touched in some way by fetishism and expressions of alternate sexual identity is rising. While expansion is a beautiful thing, it also ( by definition) introduces complexity to a system. In an effort to stem the inevitable tide of entropy, I offer my perspective on popular points of confusion. 

This is the vocabulary of identity. 

Dominance. 

Some of the most egregious misconceptions center on the concept of dominance. There are no hard and fast rules for what contributes to the presence of a FemDom. Dominance sits at the nexus of her carriage and her attributes. How she expresses her value to the world. 

Dominance is also not inherently linked to sadism, just as not all submissives are inherently masochistic. These status identities are merely a reflection of the presence and natural proclivities of the individual. 

 In essence, dominance is a state of being; it is not an act. 

Dominate / Domination.

Domination is more performative. There are, of course, multiple ways to approach this task, from traditional bondage, interrogation and mind control, sensuality, etc. Its efficacy depends on the charisma and confidence of the domme, naturally. 

A domme may use subtle methods of domination in the world at large, but the idea that a domme is constantly marauding and domineering is a complete misconception. In my own opinion, bratty and manipulative behavior is a sign of insecurity, rather than dominance. I enjoy the natural interplay of energy more than scenes, games, etc.

Besides tangles are best enjoyed consensually, individually, privately. Though, my penchant for efficiency does make me a terrifyingly deserving rinser for those so inclined. (And, if that's you, you know it's only a matter of time, darling. I will see you soon.)

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The dynamics at play in the microcosm are merely a distillation of the unspoken dynamics apparent in society at large. 

In the world, you would find me relatively mysterious, with calm reserve. A beautiful and dynamic woman, poised and confident. I choose to share My presence and fetishism with individuals who are like-minded.  

Of course, opening up your presence to a broader environment requires aggression in term-setting. My attitude reflects the strictness of my standards. My insight and leadership are reserved for those who avail themselves to it through demonstrated understanding and respect.

I choose to capitalize my time and attention as a reflection of the dynamics of supply and demand. It's my prerogative to do so in whatever manner makes sense for the individual and engagement. How you are greeted is a function of your energy, and your approach. Do you now understand?

Concisely, I spin a web. 

I will not tell you where the snares lie, only that they exist. Engineered and executed masterfully. And, if this resonates, it is no accident.  

xo, Bardot. 

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Alpha Status - The Vocabulary of Identity /  by sciarra

Humans are social creatures. But how you see yourself with respect to the pack makes all the difference. 

What is the nature of the Alpha? 

With the proliferation of the underworld thanks to the internet, themes emerge. And with themes come assumptions and misconception. The number of individuals who are touched in some way by fetishism and expressions of alternate sexual identity is rising. While expansion is is a beautiful thing, it also ( by definition) introduces complexity to a system. In an effort to stem the inevitable tide of entropy, I offer my perspective on popular points of confusion. 

This is the vocabulary of identity. ​

Despite mainstream assertions, Society will never be classless. Stratification is real, acknowledged or not.

Previous to the advent of the web, it was easier to see the contours of classes, while seeing into them was a more difficult task. Increased transparency at the hands of omnipresent media has created the illusion of a more flattened society. Where the platforms and infrastructure necessary to propagate ideas were once more tightly held by the ruling class, social media and the relative cheapness of web development have drastically lowered the barrier of entry for individuals with social purpose or agenda.

But this is far from equivalent to leveling the playing field.  The effects are double-edged: 

  • Channels open to Ideas that would previously have little to no chance of reaching public consciousness, and
  • Increased clutter and conceptual replica. 

The arm swings both ways. It's no more evident in an arena where there's money to be made and won such as financial domination. As the fetish itself breaches mainstream consciousness, the influx of interest and participation can be understood with a simple search on twitter for #findom. 

The array of results will fall into several categories. Established practitioners adapting their presences to the web, new entrants focusing on carving niches for themselves, and a herd of replicas in their likeness. In a game where individuality makes all the difference, the use of vocabulary and syntax in communication can be particularly useful as a divining rod. 

Today, the term Alpha. 

To conflate "dominance" with "alpha" status is tempting. At face value, the share some similarities. However, in both theory and practical application, they are independent axes. 

The axis dominant/submissive requires relationship to be defined. While alpha/beta status is an identifier that can be applied to individuals themselves.

A beta individual can be dominant in relation to other betas, for example. While one may be categorically dominant or submissive, the exercise of that status does not manifest completely except in relation to the complement.

The axis Alpha/beta, however, is status-independent. In terms of social organization, an Alpha will default to lead over betas, whether the betas identify as dominant or submissive. Their power is intrinsic and a result of an internal locus of control. Their self-concept is not inspired by relation to others. Therefore, the mark of an Alpha is independence and self-mastery. 

In the social context, both males and females can be alpha. Though the natural alpha female is comparatively rare and behaves differently than her male counterpart, leveraging a different array of skills and talents.  

Alphas are naturally designed to sit atop the social hierarchy due to the strength inherent in their presence. 

Self-mastery on the Order of the Alpha is formidable. For that reason, interacting with an alpha can be a thrilling and mind-expanding experience. You will see that the most elite circles are occupied almost exclusively by natural Alphas. This is true across industry and interest, which is why you will see social (and sexual) overlap at the top. 

The clarity of Mind that comes from inner peace and confidence gives them the perception to navigate any circumstance. For this reason, they will always find their way to the forefront of their chosen fields and social groupings. They are unstoppable. 

Regardless of sexual or relationship proclivities -- which are frankly more fluid in this echelon -- Alphas run society. And you were wondering how it could be so simple for me to penetrate your mind? We are wolves, yet. 

So despite the increased insistence that we live in a classless society, increased transparency has only clarified the true Nature of the stratifications. It was never about wealth and power. Though those naturally follow social dominance. (To the Victor, goes the Spoils.) Instead...

Alpha status has always and will forever be a matter of mastery. 

Now. bow down. 
xo, Bardot.