Welcome to the world of BDSM! In this episode Chantel and Vivian get the inside scoop of what it’s like to be a financial dominatrix from the infamous findom herself, Bardot Smith. This is also the first episode that the ladies streamed live via twitter and instagram.
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A Completed Series. /
Thanks for the cash, darling.
Visual Indoctrination /
Concierge /
Boys, as you know, the demands on an executive mind can become overwhelming. If one does not prioritize, process and quality of decisions will suffer.
If you've been reading long enough now, you also realize that I straddle the worlds. The distinction between vanilla, public life and private enterprise is more impactful for women. Most men consume the work of female sex workers (or civilian women's sexualities) in some form....while the women who produce and conduct that work are usually regarded as deviants for having done that work. Men never suffer for their participation in it...unless they're personally caught in the act.
And while i'm sure it turns several of you on....the thought of being caught in the act...that's not what i'm here to discuss.
Business developments that bridge between worlds are driving my focus right now. That means I'm building them through partnerships I form in and of the connections I make in this world and beyond. That means, this is a strategic position, not one of subservience.
That is to say that every moment of my focus is capitalized, now it's a matter of strengthening the rate.
In order to do this, I am enlisting the service of a concierge. He is a submissive in service to me on this side, and holds a traditional job in finance on the other. He is available to answer brief and respectful logistics questions about service to me should they arise: concierge@smithnoir.com or @subbanker on twitter.
My focus will be on profitable and productive engagements only.
The next post is a note from him on his experience both working for me and serving as a financial slave. A male perspective on a new order.
Until you spend,
Brave Enough to Change the Worlds of Business & Sex /
I was recently A guest poster for MAKE LOVE NOT PORN.
headed by Cindy Gallop and curated by her Madam Curator, Sarah Beall.
I chose to focus on the business of the sex industry and how my work here intersects with the financial, technological, and social issues at play.
An excerpt:
I am an analyst turned hustler, and a…Mistress. My work presides at the intersection of financial technology, psychology, behavioral economics…and, the dark pool of the adult industry. I am the proprietress of BardotSmith.com and Mistres.se, a think tank and advisory firm for the intersection of adult industry and financial technology.
At the beginning of operating this enterprise, I chose to embody the ideals of feminine power at all levels of my existence, up to and including my business model. In effect, reversing the concepts of supply and demand in the adult industry to challenge the notion that women who work in any type of “adult” context are only able to operate as a result of male desire, and therefore subject to male power hierarchies, even within the industry.
From the outset, I adopted a unique strategy.
To read the rest of my thoughts on #SEXTECH and the business of KINK, FETISH, and FINANCE, read the full article on their blog.
If you're not familiar with the MLNP project, it is worthy of the investment of time. Female-powered and innovative, challenging old world views of power, sex, and capital...Just how I like it.
xo, Bardot.
Plagiarism, Stalking, and Psychotic Obsession. /
A few months ago, I was met with a copy of myself.
A woman who had clearly studied and reproduced my site, as well as attempting to speak in similar tones. I discovered her as she was conversing with someone with whom I had a previous relationship.
I have finally submitted a DMCA to her website, and while it pains me to have to involve myself at all, it seems as if my tolerance has been mistaken for weakness.
This has gone too far to be obscured.
Read MoreSilicon Valley's Cult of Male Ego /
I've written an essay on sexual aggression in silicon valley tech and venture capital as a function of the fragility of male ego for Model View Culture.
The systemic issues affecting the tech and venture capital industries are so deeply internalized that they remain unacknowledged. The effects of this willful ignorance are carried disproportionately by women. While it’s been discussed countless times, most efforts to address the issue in action -- no matter how well-intentioned -- fall flat beyond bandaging its symptoms. The irony of political correctness keeps us from getting to the heart of the issue, which is, naturally, not very polite:
The tech industry serves The Cult of Male Ego. And masculinity defined via the external is notoriously fragile around sexuality.
Read the full article HERE.
Dominant vs. Dominate - The Vocabulary of Identity /
Dominant is a status. Dominate is an action.
With the proliferation of the underworld thanks to the internet, themes emerge. And with themes come assumptions and misconception. The number of individuals who are touched in some way by fetishism and expressions of alternate sexual identity is rising. While expansion is a beautiful thing, it also ( by definition) introduces complexity to a system. In an effort to stem the inevitable tide of entropy, I offer my perspective on popular points of confusion.
This is the vocabulary of identity.
Dominance.
Dominance is a manner, a state of being. Not an act.
— Bardot Smith (@BardotSmith) July 9, 2014Some of the most egregious misconceptions center on the concept of dominance. There are no hard and fast rules for what contributes to the presence of a FemDom. Dominance sits at the nexus of her carriage and her attributes. How she expresses her value to the world.
Dominance is also not inherently linked to sadism, just as not all submissives are inherently masochistic. These status identities are merely a reflection of the presence and natural proclivities of the individual.
In essence, dominance is a state of being; it is not an act.
Dominate / Domination.
Domination is more performative. There are, of course, multiple ways to approach this task, from traditional bondage, interrogation and mind control, sensuality, etc. Its efficacy depends on the charisma and confidence of the domme, naturally.
A domme may use subtle methods of domination in the world at large, but the idea that a domme is constantly marauding and domineering is a complete misconception. In my own opinion, bratty and manipulative behavior is a sign of insecurity, rather than dominance. I enjoy the natural interplay of energy more than scenes, games, etc.
Besides tangles are best enjoyed consensually, individually, privately. Though, my penchant for efficiency does make me a terrifyingly deserving rinser for those so inclined. (And, if that's you, you know it's only a matter of time, darling. I will see you soon.)
The dynamics at play in the microcosm are merely a distillation of the unspoken dynamics apparent in society at large.
In the world, you would find me relatively mysterious, with calm reserve. A beautiful and dynamic woman, poised and confident. I choose to share My presence and fetishism with individuals who are like-minded.
Of course, opening up your presence to a broader environment requires aggression in term-setting. My attitude reflects the strictness of my standards. My insight and leadership are reserved for those who avail themselves to it through demonstrated understanding and respect.
I choose to capitalize my time and attention as a reflection of the dynamics of supply and demand. It's my prerogative to do so in whatever manner makes sense for the individual and engagement. How you are greeted is a function of your energy, and your approach. Do you now understand?
Concisely, I spin a web.
I will not tell you where the snares lie, only that they exist. Engineered and executed masterfully. And, if this resonates, it is no accident.
xo, Bardot.
PS - For more, follow me on twitter.
American Mistress. /
You may know me. I am am a Mistress. Sovereign.
And, despite pageantry and many overwrought notions and confusions, what this means is that I belong to no man and I rest in no city.
Having navigated a course through some of the grittiest male-dominated environments, I have run the risk of sacrificing femininity in order to be considered viable professionally. In these worlds, being attractive is a double-edged blade. Leverage attraction and walk the line between objectification and advantage. Playing down attraction has its own set of risks, and conveys less upside.
I don't play games that i can't win.
Earlier in my career, My natural sexual and social dominance frequently disarmed (or upset) my male superiors. I began my career in the pre-crash private equity landscape. The Wild West.
The men whom I worked with could be categorized in two ways: Brilliant and misunderstood alpha males. And the others slightly more bitter drones, the betas, who would never achieve the pinnacle of success in the industry. They lacked that je ne sais quoi. The distinctions were obvious to Me, even as a 22 year-old, and they would be to anyone with passing interest in power dynamics.
Representing not only intellectual force, but having the distinct advantage of sexual magnetism, I was a direct threat to the latter category. And a thrill to the former.
I enjoyed my unspoken role as a crowbar. I grew into My social position.
Front row seats to the American Financial Apocalypse and a World Class education in owning the minds of men. In the proverbial American West, there are no rules. The one Law is "Do what must be done." There is no refuge for the weak.
As I became more experienced in my Power, I naturally moved into more esoteric chains of industry where my skills are properly leveraged. It's only natural that I have been tasked with carving out a completely singular niche. My natural abilities and evident status have rendered it impossible for Me to live a prescribed life.
I live a freedom not available or fathomable to most. I hold the key to your most profound fantasies and your most-concealed fears. But, I enjoy the company of men only on My own terms. The most-deserving relish their role in My life as servants, benefactors, or fellow wolves with which to run.
My Continuous Dynamic Equilibrium.
I straddle the line between the demimonde and the mainstream world on a daily basis. It's part of what creates a sizzling edge to all of my interactions with men. It's part of what gives me perspective to both sides of the table (if you will). For this reason, I specialize in discrete, bespoke arrangements.
The missing element in your existence. The edge. Nature.
Order out of Chaos.
Stunning, isn't it?
xo, Bardot.
Alpha Status - The Vocabulary of Identity /
Humans are social creatures. But how you see yourself with respect to the pack makes all the difference.
What is the nature of the Alpha?
With the proliferation of the underworld thanks to the internet, themes emerge. And with themes come assumptions and misconception. The number of individuals who are touched in some way by fetishism and expressions of alternate sexual identity is rising. While expansion is is a beautiful thing, it also ( by definition) introduces complexity to a system. In an effort to stem the inevitable tide of entropy, I offer my perspective on popular points of confusion.
This is the vocabulary of identity.
Despite mainstream assertions, Society will never be classless. Stratification is real, acknowledged or not.
Previous to the advent of the web, it was easier to see the contours of classes, while seeing into them was a more difficult task. Increased transparency at the hands of omnipresent media has created the illusion of a more flattened society. Where the platforms and infrastructure necessary to propagate ideas were once more tightly held by the ruling class, social media and the relative cheapness of web development have drastically lowered the barrier of entry for individuals with social purpose or agenda.
But this is far from equivalent to leveling the playing field. The effects are double-edged:
- Channels open to Ideas that would previously have little to no chance of reaching public consciousness, and
- Increased clutter and conceptual replica.
The arm swings both ways. It's no more evident in an arena where there's money to be made and won such as financial domination. As the fetish itself breaches mainstream consciousness, the influx of interest and participation can be understood with a simple search on twitter for #findom.
The array of results will fall into several categories. Established practitioners adapting their presences to the web, new entrants focusing on carving niches for themselves, and a herd of replicas in their likeness. In a game where individuality makes all the difference, the use of vocabulary and syntax in communication can be particularly useful as a divining rod.
Today, the term Alpha.
To conflate "dominance" with "alpha" status is tempting. At face value, the share some similarities. However, in both theory and practical application, they are independent axes.
The axis dominant/submissive requires relationship to be defined. While alpha/beta status is an identifier that can be applied to individuals themselves.
A beta individual can be dominant in relation to other betas, for example. While one may be categorically dominant or submissive, the exercise of that status does not manifest completely except in relation to the complement.
The axis Alpha/beta, however, is status-independent. In terms of social organization, an Alpha will default to lead over betas, whether the betas identify as dominant or submissive. Their power is intrinsic and a result of an internal locus of control. Their self-concept is not inspired by relation to others. Therefore, the mark of an Alpha is independence and self-mastery.
In the social context, both males and females can be alpha. Though the natural alpha female is comparatively rare and behaves differently than her male counterpart, leveraging a different array of skills and talents.
Alphas are naturally designed to sit atop the social hierarchy due to the strength inherent in their presence.
Self-mastery on the Order of the Alpha is formidable. For that reason, interacting with an alpha can be a thrilling and mind-expanding experience. You will see that the most elite circles are occupied almost exclusively by natural Alphas. This is true across industry and interest, which is why you will see social (and sexual) overlap at the top.
The clarity of Mind that comes from inner peace and confidence gives them the perception to navigate any circumstance. For this reason, they will always find their way to the forefront of their chosen fields and social groupings. They are unstoppable.
Regardless of sexual or relationship proclivities -- which are frankly more fluid in this echelon -- Alphas run society. And you were wondering how it could be so simple for me to penetrate your mind? We are wolves, yet.
So despite the increased insistence that we live in a classless society, increased transparency has only clarified the true Nature of the stratifications. It was never about wealth and power. Though those naturally follow social dominance. (To the Victor, goes the Spoils.) Instead...
Alpha status has always and will forever be a matter of mastery.
Now. bow down.
xo, Bardot.
Money, Sex, Power. A Case for Financial Domination. /
A few weeks ago, I did a YouTube video talking about the "value" of paper money. Obviously, this is not typical for the context of financial domination. While some dommes utilize the principles I am about to outline, I doubt that many dommes -- or subs -- have considered the implications of the practice itself.
Despite the fact that there have been a few copycats of my particular methods, it's clear that none of them have actually grasped what it is that I am conveying through my presence regarding the value of money and the implications of cash exchange as a materialization of power in a dynamic.
So here I am....
Money is a cultural abstract.
In the next several generations, it is entirely conceivable that paper money will disappear. The reason is that it is a stand-in for value. It has no intrinsic value other than what we have agreed upon collectively. That much is pretty straightforward: A piece of paper is worth basically nothing.
Now.
If we print $100 on it, and speak the same 'language' (if you will) then the possession of the bill conveys the 'right to consume' on the order of magnitude of $100 of value in goods and/or services. When economies are working well, this is an efficient way of exchanging value.
Most recently, we have seen this concept pressed to its conceptual limits with the growing popularity of crypto-currencies. That is, value can now be exchanged between parties on an agreed upon "unit" outside of the traditional federal system, i.e. generation of cycles on a computer as is the case in Bitcoin.
You see, money as a means of value exchange is simply a matter of convenience. Technically, value can be exchanged between parties according to their agreed upon terms and conditions. We use cash because it is the most efficient way of noting the transfer of value in an exchange that we have available to us presently.
To put in the context of financial domination: You want to interact with me, my thoughts, my energy, I extract cash from you for the privilege. If you had not found that My presence was intrinsically compelling and valuable, you would not seek it. Therefore, the exchange of cash is a *natural* notation for the direction of value in the interaction.
Modern financial markets are behaviorally and structurally different to anything that was previously conceptualized. it is possible to accelerate the transfer of value between parties using technology as a means of encounter, transfer, and ledger.
Again, paper money itself has no intrinsic value other than the 'right to consume.' So, neither buyer nor seller requires knowledge of the cash's history, giving it a certain form of anonymity. But it also means that the provider of cash is, essentially, interchangeable with all other possible providers of cash as far as the seller is concerned. In the case of financial domination where the 'object' is sentient, i.e. the Mistress herself, She is able to control the terms of the exchange to suit her needs or whim.
Fundamental Value
As the practice of financial domination gains traction, and as practitioners gain more skill and subtlety it will become more common for the attention of females to come with a cost. The practice of findom will bleed out of the strict context of domination and submission and into a more mainstream application, as is the case with My own practice.
And, as we sit here today (perhaps in large part due to the underground economy) the demand for paper currency is outstripping the potential for that paper currency to be replaced by electronic central bank reserves. (Another argument for the rise of cryptocurrencies... but I digress).
Perhaps without consciously knowing it, financial domination has taken a place in the natural evolution of this landscape:
As a disruption to the status quo, and as a reconceptualization of capital itself, superior females have started to realize that if you have something that someone wants, you do not have to give it up unless you're satisfied with the terms of the exchange. (Of course, until this concept is well understood across the spectrum of females, there will continue to be a market flooded with cheap attention, sex, etc. That's a separate issue that I could discuss at length in a later post.)
For now, My point here is that to engage in financial domination is to PRACTICE the EXCHANGE of POWER and VALUE through the very most efficient terms provided for in this economic landscape. It is therefore the most ELEGANT form of psychological domination available to practitioners.
The Future of Financial Domination
The normalization of innovation into a society or sub-society (where said innovation becomes accepted as a norm) can happen at a gradual pace or through abrupt shocks.
My practice of financial domination does radically reimagine the use of capital in the context of domination and submission, sex and power itself.
Yes, findom practices vary widely as a function of understanding and tools available to practitioners. But My particular preference (and fetish) is for cash as a materialization of power exchange. I enjoy the use my superior intellect and sex appeal to create an efficient micro-market for capital.
That is, by the way, why I require tribute upfront in order to engage in an interaction at all: It cements the understanding of power dynamics in the interaction and creates a foundation from which a joint venture can be built. It is the "Pass Go" component of the interaction.
We have to remember that money is a human invention, and a human technology.
I have, in essence, capitalized my existence as a socially and intellectually superior female. To serve Me, is to serve not only Me as a domme, but also My purpose in society and the very concept of powerful femininity.
Personally, I enjoy the company of men who naturally enjoy supporting a dominant woman in her life and purpose, and who enjoy receiving her insight and presence as a result. I exercise this fetish in an intellectually respectable place, though I maintain extremely high standards for enterting My service. I do not trade on volume but quality, as it takes a very highly sophisticated man to relish this role.
Financial Domination is, in that respect, one of the most honorable methods of power exchange. A show of respect and homage for the presence of women. The future itself.
I am not available to discuss these concepts without financial consideration of the value of My time. Though i am happy to discuss most topics at great length with those who understand this basic dynamic.
Your Undoing. /
You are...shaking. A loop plays over in your mind. Again... again... again...
Nerves? Exhilaration? Or the volatile reaction to my presence searing the edges of your consciousness? You never saw it coming.
All the minute forces, the sticky glue that previously sustained your world disintegrating into the void. There is nothing to be done.
Your unraveling is inescapable. It's only just begun. The initiation is swift. Your trajectory is inevitable.
When I think of how your mind spins, the corners of my lips turn up. First one. Then the other.
Poor little creature. Welcome to your undoing.
Two can play this game.
xo, Bardot.
A Note from a Throne. /
A note to submissives and would-be slaves: If you are afraid of truly submitting, you should not contact me.
I am trained in multiple methods to penetrate your mind. I am not here to make you miserable (at least not unless it is called for) but to be served while I use you for whatever purpose suits me.
I will fulfill the part of your life that is missing. And I will mold you into the man you secretly wish you were.
But it comes at a premium.
It is my purpose of being to provide graceful feminine inspiration to the world..or to relentlessly correct imbalances within it.
It is an artform.
I am here to turn you into my plaything to delight me as I require, to use you to serve my end goals, and to require that you endure the penalties of failing to maintain my good graces. I will break down your mind and your body and the last shreds of your dignity as necessary in order to mold you into a more useful and delightful being.
I maintain only the most well-behaved, generous, and truly subservient pets.
I am so very sorry to say this. (Read: not really sorry at all) as I know it can be difficult to fathom all that this entails, but my attention must come at a premium of some kind. I will not let you defile my attention by wasting my time.
Confusion makes me sad.
Then it makes me upset. Because now, instead of enjoying my life, it is my duty to correct the…condition…in which you’ve found yourself.
At which point, instead of being the embodiment of femininity, grace, and charm, I am forced to bring a very specific type of personal hell to your earth until morale improves.
I’ve shared sophisticated company and I have enjoyed the same natural abilities in their polite company.
Turn in fear. Resist in vain. Or Submit entirely.
(Although hard limits are *always* respected, I have no hesitation in exploiting all of your various weaknesses in order to test them.)